Thoughtful Thinking: A Guide to Reshape Negative Thoughts and Cultivate a Happier Life

Welcome to the Shifting Sands Psychology Counselling and Education blog, where we are dedicated to supporting you on your journey to learn new strategies for coping and living a happier life…

Let’s explore the powerful connection between negative thoughts and feelings, and guide you through the process of replacing unhelpful thoughts with thoughtful coping strategies.

Understanding the link between thoughts and feelings

The content of our thoughts plays a crucial role in determining how we feel. Our automatic negative thoughts are spontaneous, negative thoughts that often arise in challenging situations, impacting our emotions. This concept is a fundamental aspect of Cognitive-Behaviour Therapy (CBT), a widely researched psychotherapy approach.

Introducing coping thoughts

Coping thoughts are personalised, strength-based declarations that help us to redirect our attention as we navigate difficult emotions more effectively. By replacing automatic negative thoughts with coping thoughts, we learn to control our emotional responses to triggering situations. This process involves establishing personal coping mantras, which act as powerful tools in moments of distress.

Creating personal coping mantras

Coping thoughts can be challenging to recall during emotional distress, making it essential to write them down or repeat them to ourselves often, for easy recall. You may choose a method that works for you, such as placing them on your bathroom mirror or storing them in the notes on your mobile phone. This practice ensures quick access to coping mantras in times of need.

Managing stressful situations with your new coping thoughts

Stressful situations often give rise to negative thoughts, amplifying feelings of distress. Introducing coping thoughts can help you to manage stress by providing a more constructive perspective on the situation. Examples of effective coping thoughts include acknowledging the temporary nature of the situation and recognising your personal resilience.

Creating your coping mantra

Take a moment to reflect on a situation that may typically cause stress. Identify an automatic thought associated with that situation and replace it with an alternative positive coping thought. Additionally, consider one powerful coping thought that resonates with you on a personal level—your unique coping mantra.

Some examples of positive coping thoughts

• This situation won't last forever.

• I can tolerate this emotion until it becomes less intense.

• I am not my emotions; they do not define me.

• This too shall pass.

Empower yourself with the tools to reshape your negative thoughts and foster a happier life. By understanding the link between your thoughts and feelings, embracing positive coping thoughts, and creating personal coping mantras, you can navigate life's challenges with resilience and grace. You can really take control of your response to situations and actively work toward being happier in your life.

Remember, the journey to thoughtful thinking is a continuous process. Embrace it. Your new coping mantras will guide you towards a brighter, more positive future.

Kaye Dallow